Courtney Cook Gives Instructions on How To Be An Ass (High Blood Pressure Warning)
Courtesy of Uber Pig at Blackfive, I give you Courtney Cook on how to leave a soldier while he is deployed overseas:
You’d be surprised how easy it is to leave a soldier on deployment. You can do it with a letter. (He can’t argue with you. He doesn’t have a phone.) If you lay the groundwork early, saying to the soldier before he leaves, “This will be the end of us, we might as well admit it,” it’s that much easier. The letter won’t even come as a shock.
And if you have children with that soldier? You can handle all that with a letter, too. He’ll write it — because he cares about the kids, because he wants to work with you to do what’s best for them even though you’re leaving him — and you’ll give it to them. Here again, you will avoid a nasty confrontation. Who will they cry to? You? You’re just the teary-eyed bearer of the letter. Him? The one who’s sweating it out in the desert?
There will be no moving truck, no boxes, no house torn asunder. The soldier is peeing in a bucket as you pack. He doesn’t care who gets the couch.
Who did she leave her husband for you ask…
I am married to a lithe, blue-eyed Marxist whose dissertation was on U.S. imperialism in the late 19th and early 20th centuries, a man who participated in war protests in Santa Cruz, Calif., during the winter I lived at Fort Knox.
Read the whole article and the comments some of the people at Salon have made. Here is a choice one:
Volunteer soldiers enable voluntary wars. Why do we continue to cheer them as they get off the plane?
Category: Politics
What a Cee-U-Next-Tuesday. She doesn’t deserve him, she doesn’t deserve our pity, but her kids sure do.
The LTC is better off without this loser. Also, there are more Americans out there that really don’t support our troops and our form of government than most Americans realize. I don’t give damn how much they try to say they support the troops not the war; they learned after Vietnam that attacking the troops didn’t sit well with most Americans.
…gas truck…taste her own blood…I’ll leave the rest to your imagination.
I don’t think that she meant that first paragraph to be read too literally. She talks later on in the article about loving that same man. It couldn’t have been easy. I think she just wanted an upside down way to grab the reader’s attention—to talk about it really callously so that the reader could see that it’s emotionally difficult, but physically easy.
Catherine, my problem with Cook is not about her divorcing her husband because she could not handle military life, but how she went about doing it. Military life is very hard for members and families. It is not meant for everyone and especially as a career. As I said it’s the way she did it. Also, in her writing she comes across as a self-centered tw*t, since it is always about her even before her own children.
Catherine, you did catch this, right? “I took a job at an independent bookstore and started spending time with the young, funny, book-reading guys I met there”. How about this gem? “I was just 30 years old, working with teenage students, surfing all of their exuberant, sexy, rowdy energy”. As was said over at B5, I wonder if this skrunt appears on any state’s sex offender registry? This is nothing but an invitation to a pity party for this bitch.
Sadly, she isn’t far too removed (if at all) from many of the “deployment widows” we suffered through in my side of the world. It used to sicken me to no end when one of our squadrons would depart for a 9-10 month deployment overseas, and the very same night that the last crew took off, there would be a pack of Navy wives hitting the clubs looking for someone to party with while their husbands were gone.
I remember one of our blueshirts got a head’s up note that his wife had moved out of Navy housing with their two little kids not a week after we deployed. She took everything they owned with her, and moved in with an old boyfriend, while still collecting allotment checks from him. She wasn’t going to tell him anything until he got back and found the house empty. The sailor became nearly suicidal, and it was good that we all got the news too, so we could help him out as best we could.
There is a special place in hell for women (and men) who do these sorts of things.
“I took a job at an independent bookstore and started spending time with the young, funny, book-reading guys I met there.”
Gonna go out on a limb and guess this was the jumping-off point. She was probably a decent human being before she started hanging around with the self-absorbed, arrogant “intellectuals” that infest many bookstores. That she goes on, “When John came back things were awkward. I couldn’t stop myself from being angry, couldn’t help feeling abandoned.” supports that guess, as does her proud proclamation that her new husband is an out-and-out Marxist. People, especially the weak-minded like Cook, tend to become like those they spend time around, so it’s no surprise she became this sort of wretch.
If I were her son and I had to deal with my new “stepdad” I don’t think I could hide my contempt. All that would go through my head everytime I saw him is “what a pussy.”
Cunt…….
Acting like a selfish spoiled brat…check.
All about her…check.
Whining, wimpy…check
Readers sympathy…XXXXXX!!!
Selfish, spoiled brats get what they deserve in the end. Someone who will cater to their whims, and pretend days of wonder and love….(excuse me, I must go chum a bit.) Until that Marxist husband does just what she did…cause you know, it’s just hard to love one person, like um, for-evvvver as he waves goodbye and says “Let’s stay friends…I’ll always love you.”
Like I posted at B5,
The woman may have written a set of instructions for how to easily leave your deployed husband via Dear John, but I wouldn’t encourage anyone married to a female Marine to follow her blueprint; it might not go as smoothly for the spouse doing the dumping as it did for this witch…….
Sadly, I have seen this happen, as Tim did, when a unit left for a mission, it was a mad dash to the clubs for some of the wives/girlfriends. I had also witnessed the end of relationships and marriages while in, but this description takes the cake. Talk about a selfish, cold woman. It fits that she snuggled up to a Marxist who bitches about the US all while the ex-hubby of this bitch assures the freedom so the “lithe Marxist” can spew his bullshit. BTW, “lithe Marxist” is code for pussy. Most women want real men, not “lithe Marxists” that scream like pussies when confronted by real men.
She has no soul.
We called them Boomer Widows. Same story.
One more thought… It pleases me to read the son is at Annapolis. Sounds like his head is on straight despite the bullshit from his mom he had to grow up with.
In the interests of full disclosure, I am a currently serving National Guardsman, brother to another National Guardsman, brother in law to a wonderful woman who has been through a deployment of her spouse, and the soon to be husband to someone who is WAY above my pay grade.
It is good to see that Courtney married way above her pay grade the first time and that her man didn’t stoop to her level (at least in her side of the story). I don’t know if I could be that kind if my anchor to stability left me high and dry while I was in the $h!t.
If I received a letter like her first husband did, she would be out of my house on her ass as soon as my aunt and uncle made the drive to get my stuff from the house, and when I got home, there would be a LOT of evil said in the “Mr Rogers” voice as I made sure that she never saw 1 red cent from me again and her father (a PROUD Vietnam vet who has the misfortune of having a yellowstripe son in law who faked his way into a general discharge for psyche reasons and out of a deployment to the Stan) knew what she did to me while I was gone. He would handle it from there.
As for the Salon posters who support the douchebag who is breathing my air (yes, it is mine and one of these days I am going to start collecting payment from the worthless bags of flesh who steal it and contribute nothing to society), I would not piss on them if they were on fire to put them out.
I WOULD drive down the street to find a phonebooth to call 911 though, because flesh stinks once it starts cooking at a high temperature.
She must have been hot as there doesn’t seem to be anything inside.
Barry, if she’s anything like the typical moonbat grunge child running around Dartmouth these days, she’s not.
Barry, like Sparky said, no way. Think dirty ankles, scaly dirt on the elbows and a ring of dirt on the neck.
And, Jon’s right, you gotta call 9-1-1, other wise the stink just gets too bad.
I recall a Soldier bragging about this girl at Taco Bell he’d hooked up with while on Rear-D. A Corporal overheard him, started asking specific questions, then told the kid she was his wife. Shut him up real fast. For some reason or another, the Corporal stayed with her, then about 6 months into Iraq he got word that his stateside bills were overdue. She’d packed up everything, sold his car and left the house without so much as a heads up to the landlord. He was a bit upset.
I’ve seen many marriages work. Most of the time the more attractive and engaging (in my book) spouses are the ones who stay faithful, getting out and doing things to stay occupied instead of sitting around and getting lonely and resentful or seeking intimate relations.
Did this faux-woman’s blue eyed commie turd burglar bother to ‘splain that pesky body count the idiot followers of karl-never had a job & bourgeois to boot-marx racked up???
I absolutely hate women like this. Many military wives cowboy up and work their asses off, taking care of home, kids, jobs and every little and big problem that comes along while their husbands are deployed. Then a skag like this comes along and too many people think all military wives/girlfriends are like this. Of course, I met some in the 20 years I was a Navy wife, but I met many more good, honest loving wives, holding down the fort while waiting for their loved one to come home. Military marriages are hard, not for the feint of heart and many fail. But this woman is a selfish coward and deserves no better than a marxist. I do feel for her children. A mother who doesn’t know how to love her son after he joins the military? It really is “all about me” with her.
I’ve known at least two buddies that this has happened to. One was on deployment in Korea and the other was patrolling the North Atlantic in a P-3 looking for Soviet boomers. The bud who was in the Army took revenge by passing out “adult” photographs of his soon-to-be ex-wife to virtually anyone he met, encouraging them to write her. In his case, he discovered her cheating after she wrecked his new truck leaving a local hotel…the police report named the guy she’d been screwing. In the other guy’s case, his wife took it upon herself to cozy up to the neighbor, who’s wife was a Navy officer. As long as they stayed in JAX, everything was cool, but when he relocated to HI, she got bored, told him she was moving back to Maine (where her parents lived) and proceeded to screw old classmates and boyfriends. This, while my friend was sending me emails telling me about how loving and wonderful his wife was to take care of their kids while he stayed on all these extended deployments. In both cases, they each found someone who was better suited to military life, and they’re now truly happy, but I honestly don’t know what goes through the mind of some of these people. I have a theory that many of them thought they’d have this wonderfully grand adventure…get to see exotic places and have good benefits and a fairly stable paycheck (albeit a meager one). In the end, I suppose the reality didn’t quite live up to the expectation. Hell, I don’t know. All I do know is I think it’s pretty effin’ shitty.
I think this has little to do with the military and more to do with immaturity and selfishness. She wasn’t getting the attention she thought she deserved so she found someone who would give it to her. The same thing would have happened if her husband was a business man that traveled frequently.
I hear about these situations all the time, it’s amazing what a guy will tell you if you give him an ice cream sandwich. Jamie and I give a lot of good dating tips, but some women will always be users and they seek men who are honorable and loyal because they know they will be trusting and will always do the right thing in the end and the woman will get what she wants.
This’s happening to me right now. Sent her the link to the article. Can’t say I don’t disagree with y’all’s opinions.
Sorry, bad English… Can’t say I disagree with y’all’s opinions. (Strong feelings there, words sorta secondary.)
http://courtneycook.us/blog/?p=1146
From the blog:
on leaving a soldier
So I published this article on Salon last week and it got some attention. I got a lot of comments on the piece itself and some blogs picked it up too. It was a bizarre trip into online publishing. One thing I discovered is that if you publish online there are people who have never met you who will address you by your first name and curse you in the most vile possible way. A lot of readers keyed on the lead – which was quite obviously ironic – nothing important is ever simple, especially not the break-up of a marriage.
Jezebel linked to it and their commenters raised interesting things about the behavior of soldiers on deployment I had never thought about. Several military spouse blogs like LeftFace linked to it, and I’m still surfing an intense, profane, hate-filled anger from many (though not all) of those readers. I also heard directly from many current and ex-military who thanked me for telling my story. My family including my ex-soldier and my friends read it and understood it – but they already knew me.
What I wanted to shed a light on was how two decades of military involvement overseas has been disproportionately hard on American service members and their families – including mine. What I hadn’t planned on was that the word “marxist” would be so incendiary, nor that a woman’s wanting to define her sexuality on her own terms would be considered selfish. Salon picked the title. I wanted to call it “On Leaving a Soldier.”
Yeah, who knew “marxist” could be so controversial or that a woman abandoning her children’s father while he’s at work would be considered selfish.
Well Jonn, you forgot the most important part…you know…the part where she’s still pals with her ex, which sort of validates the whole thing…not that he’d have any reason to think she’d be so vapid and shallow as to use their kids against him if they happened to have a bit of a falling out…perish the thought. What a lucky guy.
I’m sorry you are correct there is nothing that sounds selfish about a woman who wants to define her own sexuality by meeting her own needs than working hard at her marriage.
Jonn, I didn’t read this intially, because you know how much I love listening to women complain about how hard life is….Not… like women haven’t been fighting this fight since the dawn of time… but I broke down and read it. OH MY GOSH…she had to hold the baby while cooking for a three year old? REALLY? and that’s all this guy’s fault? LMAO…honey, you’d have been cooking breakfast if he was in the next room… or on his way to his office job. Maybe the soldier dealt so well with her back stabbing sneakiness because she wasn’t much to lose…who can say. What made me the most sad–and angry– -is the wh*re wouldn’t stand with her son at his proudest moment. That is shitty. Low. Kids make their choices… like them or don’t… you still stand WITH them.
SELFISH. I think she just burned her bridges.