This one just pisses me off no end
Roger Curry, an Air Force veteran who worked as a nurse for Kaiser Permanente following his service with USAF, was found sitting at a bus station in Hereford, 150 miles north of London, England.
According to this story, he had no idea how he’d gotten there, as he is suffering from Alzheimer’s.
In Japan, they call it ‘granny-dumping’.
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You don’t do that to family.
I know, first hand, how hard it is to take care of a loved one who cannot care for themselves. Done it too many times already and doing it now. It drains you something fierce.
But you don’t do that to family.
Never.
I can only hope that he wandered away from where he was being cared for, and was not dumped.
No, Graybeard, read the story.
His son and wife took him to England on a trip and left him there. He was dumped. I don’t know why they haven’t been brought up on charges in the US for what they did, but I’m hoping that will happen.
I read, I cried.
Kevin Curry is despicable.
Mrs. Curry, I understand, has Parkensons. I have no idea how her abusive son Kevin may be influencing her actions.
But I can say, I would gladly meet Kevin Curry in a dark alley. He would need permanent care afterwards – and my conscience would not bother me a bit.
You are not alone in that, Graybeard.
Fuck that guy straight to hell.
My wife and I had planned to retire in Costa Rica for a few years. Instead we had to move to New Mexico and care for her elderly parents until they died. More than twelve years later, our plans for Costa Rica are long forgotten as we are now too old ourselves. We are still dealing with residual matters regarding their estate, which wasn’t particularly large and was divided four ways but was quite complicated to settle. None of the rest of the heirs or their children lifted a finger.
But to paraphrase Graybeard, that’s what you do for family and we have no regrets.
Amen.
I am blessed our families helped (and help) when and as they can given that we live in different towns and even states, and all division of the estates was very harmonious.
But like Poe says, that’s what you do for family, and we have no regrets.
Blood is blood.
At least you live in NM… wish we still did. Only two things better about TX – no state income tax, and slightly fewer lefty moonbats.
Yep, and it was high up in the mountains of Southern New Mexico in Ruidoso. The cool alpine natural beauty made an arduous task much easier. We would probably still be there if the drought had not come and stayed bringing the devastating forest fires. Once those thousands of acres of alpine forests were gone, we knew we’d never see them again in our lifetimes.
It was beautiful country.
I remember the smoke from those fires traveled into south-west Colorado where we were backpacking. It was sad.
Forgot to add that we moved to the very green mountains and forests of Arkansas with lakes all around us.
And here’s the best part, David:
Conservative Republican governor
Conservative Republican lt. governor
Conservative Republican attorney general
Conservative Republican State Senate
Conservative Republican State House
Conservative Republican federal senators
Conservative Republican congressman
And in every election the Democrats lose more ground.
And at the rate they’re pissing hardworking productive folks off I’m sure the D-rats will keep falling down the proverbial cliff they drove themselves off of!
Kevin Curry needs to be horsewhipped…and that’s for starters! He’s one sick MOFO in need of a good, long beating for all that he has done to his parents.
The line forms to the right.
Kevin Curry can die choking on a bag of dicks after the stunt he pulled. That’s just sick, selfish, and cruel do he should get to experience a sick, selfish, and cruel end himself.
Since his Father has Alzheimer’s, his mother has Parkinson’s, and genetics is a harsh mistress; odds are good that he will one day be able to fully appreciate what his parents are going through and realize the depths of his depravity.
I got words, but I won’t write them.
With a “son” like that, who needs enemies?
There’s a lot of research being done to try to reverse the debilitating effects of Alzheimer’s. I hope that some day, people like Mr. Curry will not be treated with such a lack of respect by family members.
A special place in HELL exists specifically for scumbags like Kevin Curry, may he suffer alone in later life and die a forgotten lowlife, may the day he was born be erased from the calendar.
Ex, I can only cry after reading that article, how could anyone do that to a family member? I wouldn’t even do that to my cat!!! I really hope after reading this, that folks remember to take care of their estates. My dear departed mother didn’t do that and when she passed, I really had to bite my lip when the lawyer wrote out the check for that miserable cockbags 1/3 share of her small life insurance policy! I can only dream of sticking that check up his rotten ass and hope he gets constipated! I have seen far too many elderly people get taken advantage of in these kind of matters! I hope to God I am never in that situation myself. I will blow my brains out before that happens! One day I will get him put in prison if it is the last thing I do! Please pray for this dear VET!!!
You have to take care of things, long before you think you need to. If you don’t, it’s denial. It was necessary for my sister and brother and me to push our own mother into a corner to even make out a will, because she didn’t want to think about ‘that’.
But dumping someone who is helpless like that should generate criminal charges. I don’t understand why it hasn’t happened, but I’ll keep looking for something. It is unforgivable.
I hear you girl, I think they should have made that son of a bitch swim back home with a 50 lb back pack! God how I hate anyone that is cruel to their parents. I was blessed to have the two best parents in the world. I would give anything to have just one more conversation with either one of them! My poor mother, God rest her soul, had to raise us three heathens, she really had a job on her hands. The one good thing I did for her was to teach her how to drive before I left for basic. I didn’t want her to be stuck in the house all day! In all her years, she never learned to drive. I was so proud of her when she passed the test driving my 62 Impala SS, 375 Horsepower, 4 spd on the first try! She could still drive a stick well into her 80’s! I love you Ma!!!
I wonder why the adult daughter is nowhere n the picture…
Ah, yes. “The golden Years”. The human race has spent untold wealth and thousands of years to extend the human lifespan so that we can all enjoy Alzheimer’s and arthritis. God is laughing.
When my Grandma got to the point where her needs couldn’t be met without 24/7 professional care, the family placed her in a care facility. We vetted the shit out of it beforehand, and at least one of us (usually more), myself included, were still in there every day to check up on her and visit with her, so that she knew we were still with her.
That anyone would do any less for their parents or grandparents disgusts and appalls me.
My daughter is an RN, so she knows the best and the best-to-avoid nursing homes. The Russian comes from a family with hx of dementia/etc., so I bought her a Cadillac policy ten years ago from John Hancock. Daily coverage presently nearly $300 a DAY with no lifetime limit. Expensive? Jeez, you wouldn’t believe. I wouldn’t care if it was double the price, she deserves only the best and, if she ever needs it, she will have it. I didn’t qualify. If you want to know what nursing homes are the best, befriend a few RN. They KNOW.
You could also just ask any phone repairman, I worked in all of them, I could really tell you some stories. I really hated the ones that would tie them up in their chair with a bedsheet so they couldn’t bother anybody. They also knew when family would come to visit, so they could clean them up before hand! Most of them are nothing but a warehouse to put them in waiting to die! I used to spend hours there just talking to the folks. They were all so lonely, just wanted someone to listen to them. I remember one poor old lady that thought I was her son! I would always stop by at least once a week to talk to her and visit. Even the staff thought I was her real son! God rest her soul.
Chief, I was the marketing director for a United Way hospice and had to do the contracting with nursing homes for our agency over a large area of South Texas.
I learned quickly that nursing homes and nursing home nurses are at the bottom of the pecking order in the nursing hierarchy. Most hospital nurses are hyper critical of nursing homes and their providers so you have to temper those opinions a bit. I was constantly placating pissed off nursing home administrators because my hospice nurses treated the nursing home nurses as inferiors. And the complaints were legitimate–our nurses were mostly hospital nurses looking for a change of practice so they were really critical. I finally got a personable nursing home director on board and put her in charge of all our nursing home patients. Things improved greatly.
However, while hospital nurses generally only have contact with the residents of those nursing homes geographically close to them, they can serve as good reference sources for those closer facilities as they can see which NH residents are receiving good care and which aren’t when the patients are hospitalized for various reasons.
Best advice: Ask multiple nurses.
Having family ties into the local medical community is always an eye-opener.
But we had a lot of Divine Intervention when my indigent brother had his stroke and suddenly had to go into an “assisted living facility.” Where the county charitable care put him is not the fanciest in the world – but the staff cares, he is loved by a lot of the nurses and the doctor, and they have a good relationship with even the difficult patients.
Not like the place where one of my grandmothers ended up. They treated her like dirt.
Attitude is everything, Graybeard, and it comes from the top. A caring owner, administrator and director of nursing set the tone for the facility.
As for fancy, some of the most caring nursing homes in San Antonio and South Texas that I knew of were in impoverished communities where the facilities were so basic my hospice nurses didn’t even want to enter them. I had to remind them that some of those nursing home residents were probably getting three hot meals a day and sleeping on clean sheets for the first times in their lives. Some had lived in shacks with dirt floors and no electricity much less heating and air conditioning.
I had to caution our nurses not to be ethnocentric by judging those poor folks in those small, shabby nursing homes by their own middle class standards. Sadly, for many of these nursing home residents, they were living at the highest standard of their lives.
Not every elderly person deserves respect. Some elderly people are terrible people. How do you know this guy didn’t get what he deserved?
In my opinion some elderly people deserve to be treated by dirt because they showed no mercy their entire life to others.
Just watch this video on the way malignant narcissist treat children. These child abusers deserve no mercy.
My point is that most of you probably wouldn’t mind that happening to Bernath. And he’s a veteran. So if you read an article of that with Bernath I’m sure many of you would be here laughing about it.
I have to respectfully disagree with you, lily. That disbarred lawyer you mentioned has ostracized himself every chance he’s had in his adult life while it appears that Roger Curry did all he could to be a productive part of society in his adult life. With that being said, you could also be right and there are things he did that weren’t right but in the end it’s as wrong as wrong can be to recklessly abandon an aged Adult like that.
Trying not to appear to have any sympathy for someone who would dump a parent in a foreign country because obviously that is just wrong.
On the other hand, having dealt with an Alz patient parent while the other parent was mentally fit but physically incapacitated, I can empathize with how a caregiver could become so frustrated, tired, and otherwise screwed up that completely irrational action could appear correct under some circumstances. Not saying that anything justifies dragging a parent out to be abandoned.
Presumably, this pair, having enough $$ to travel internationally, they surely had enough $$ to explore better options.