Bride kicks guests out of wedding for Marines uniform
Marines… you can’t take them anywhere.
A bride admitted over the weekend that she recently asked a guest to leave her wedding for arriving in his Marines uniform and all his military medals, claiming the man did it just to upstage her.
The bride described the scenario in a post on the Reddit forum “Am I the A******,” in which users ask other users whether they acted inappropriately in a given situation or another party did.
“I have nothing against anyone in the military but this was a black-tie-optional wedding and frankly it felt very out of place and it seemed like he was just trying to show off,” she wrote. “My wedding had over 300 guests and nobody else felt the need to wear something to make them stand out.”
The man was the son of one her husband’s family friends, and other than allegedly hijacking her big day, he acted like a perfect gentleman “as one might expect from a member of the armed forces,” she wrote. But she also implied he was making a spectacle of himself, enticing “a few excited teenage girls” to ask him to take pictures with them, “to which he graciously agreed.”
Of course, many other guests were approaching the military man and thanking him for his service, but to the bride, it was too big of a faux pas.
“Frankly it just felt like the only reason he wore that was to be in the spotlight and make it about him, which I don’t think you are supposed to do at someone else’s wedding,” she wrote.
“If he wants to wear that to his own wedding then fine, but the whole point of having a dress code at a wedding is so that no one guest will stand out too much. I felt that he should have known this, since the whole point of uniforms in the military is so that you don’t stand out from everyone else!”
The anonymous bride closed the letter by saying she “felt bad” about asking the man in the Marine formal uniform to leave, “but it just didn’t feel right for him to be there like that.” When she asked if she was being the a******, commenters answered — many also members of the military — but their responses may come as a surprise.
“Army here. Look, I wouldn’t want to wear my ASUs (much less my mess dress) to someone’s wedding. Even if they asked me,” one person wrote. “But that’s because my ASUs feel significantly less formal and awesome than the Marines formal uniform. Theirs actually looks classy and black tie. If I had that as an option, I might be like ‘I should definitely wear this to this fancy wedding.’”
Another member of the military wrote, “Wearing formal military wear at formal civilian events is allowed per regulations (Army is AR 670-1, no clue for Marines), but you have to be a special kind of a****** to wear it to a non-military wedding without specific permission of the couple. The reason for this is the same as wearing white to a wedding — this puts you in competition with the bride. He should have dressed in civilian wear, or at very least, checked with the couple getting married.”
That person did suggest, however, that the bride went a little too far.
“He was rude. No question, but kicking him out of the wedding was a bit much,” the user wrote. “It’s your special day, but you shouldn’t forget that you play dual roles — you are both the host and the one fêted. Don’t forget that former role. You probably should have grimaced and just gone with it along with other faux pas such as Uncle Larry puking in the bushes and cousin Jenny making out with the DJ. With 300 guests, one person in uniform isn’t going to kill your day.”
A third person put it simply: “Full on medals, man? To a civilian wedding? Come on.”
Others came to the Marine’s defense. One wrote, “He probably wore the d**n thing because it’s the formal thing that makes him feel the most awesome — not to steal the spotlight.” Another commented, “If he is young and right out of boot, money isn’t flowing yet for him to rent a tux. But he definitely should have checked with the couple first.”
Another commenter put it a little more bluntly, writing, “Over 300 people. Guy is in military formal wear and was very well-mannered. No question you’re an A. An over-dramatic, self-centered A.”
Source: Bride kicks guests out of wedding for Marines uniform
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In the surface , it really seems petty and rude on the brides part , and throwing someone out and causing needless embarrassment to this Marine and justifying it with the uniform is just showing off.is going a bit far. Granted, most guys I know active or retired would rather get in a nice , suit that is infitely more comfortable than a dress uniform , but I am in agreement that if the wedding had a dress. Code it should have been adhered to by this young man. But I also think that there should have been some leeway if say, that’s all he could afford. In which case I think someone should have asked him about it before going full bridezilla on him
Another point is what exactly was the dress code? If it said “Formal attire” or something similar, his dress uniform would meet that description.
I agree that if not specified it leaves room for interpretation. However I know some go way far in dictating not only what the wedding parties wear but those of the guests. Personally I think that’s a stupid idea but bridezillas have a rep for being control freaks. I don’t know if that’s the case here but again if just formal wear , casual beach casual are pretty general dress codes
Agree 100% NCF
I first read this story a few days ago. No other outlet seems to be allowing comments, so I’ll ask this here…
Has anyone asked the question that perhaps this was the only formal clothes the young Marine owned?
Don’t think so. Why? Well the cost for that outfit is $1239. Suit and tie can be had for substantially less. Unless it’s hoi polloi. In which case, it’s lots more. My USAF Mess Dress was pretty sharp. Loved to wear it. But if you invite a Marine to your wedding and he shows up in mess dress, you ought to be thankful. Gives it some class.
I agree with the last commentator, that the bride was being a huffy asshole.
what if that was the best thing he had, the most respectful and formal thing he could offer up for her? for many years, my dress setup was the most formal thing I had, and that may well have been his viewpoint too.
yes, he should’ve checked with her or the groom, but I get the sense from reading her view on this that she is one of those “me me me me me me” types and nothing would’ve made her happy. her jealousy of him – in spite of the fact that she admits he was being very respectful – indicates to me that this “happy” union is short lived.
get a fuckin’ grip. there were many, many better ways to handle this than she did.
I can relate to the guy since I have the same problem —
I just look too damn good.
I basically come down on the side of yes, she is an asshole. People aren’t there to see the Marine. If people go up to the lad and say “thanks” then so what? Was she sitting alone while people ogled at the Dress Blues? No. A few people, perhaps even a steady stream, who WEREN’T talking to her at the time, were saying thank you for serving to this kid. Do ALL guests have to pay attention to her ALL the time? No – she couldn’t talk to that many people at once anyway. She was just jealous that someone else at her wedding would get some attention. Get over yourself, babe. I guess she wanted it so everyone waited in small groups until they had the joy of being able to shower her with attention. Someone siphoning off some of that was just too much, I suppose.
Venting. . . . complete.
Ms Thang prolly mad cause:
(a) He looked more better than she did.
(b) He got more attention/picture requests than she did.
(c) Kicking her ass cause she chose the other dude instead of a Marine.
(d) She realized she’d only be a bride for a day, he’d be a Marine for evah.
(e) Wished she’d had him at the bachelorette party as the man jumping out of the cake.
(f) All of the above.
If I were in this Marine’s shoes, I would’ve been in ASU with bow tie, ribbons not medals. In 24 years of Army service, the only suits I owned were Class A’s, Dress Blues, and the ASU. I still don’t own a suit. And when bridezilla here says “medals” does she mean the big clanky things, or was he wearing the appropriate ribbons? Chick needs Xanax and the groom is gonna need a lawer very soon.
Shit like this makes me eternally grateful Mrs. Sparky is so freaking levelheaded.
Go naked, with a body paint tuxedo on.
Indeed. The blushing bride should count herself lucky. Some of the people I was in the Army with might have gone dressed as Bobo the Gorilla.
It can also make you wonder about the mental health of the guy who decided to hook up with Mistress Fashion Police, and what kind of wretched life he’s going to have had in about 30 years. To paraphrase The Duke:
Life is hard, son. It’s harder when you’re stupid enough to marry a woman who bitches about her wedding on Reddit.
To be fair, she wasn’t bitching about it on Reddit, she seemed to be legitimately reflecting on whether she handled the situation appropriately.
I don’t believe she did, but I also feel the Marine was wrong to show up in his blues. I don’t buy the excuse that he may not have been able to afford another suit, as he wasn’t a direct guest of either party and could have declined to come (or borrowed the cash to visit the thrift store).
She failed, as one of the commenters pointed out, in her role as host… but I’ll extend a degree of leniency to a bride being a little insane.
He failed in allowing his own hubris override the spirit of the event. I understand that, having myself appreciated how young ladies respond to the uniform, but it was (though technically within regs) unprofessional and selfish.
I might agree with you except it’s Reddit and “Am I the Asshole” tends to often be a rhetorical question.
So she never actually talked to the jarhead to find out why he decided to wear the uniform, but decided to throw him out on his ass anyway. I’ll stand by my original comment. It still seems reasonable to me to call it bitching even if it took the form of passive-aggressive behavior by her deciding to share her sad story with a million strangers.
Answer: “yes”
Why didn’t she put in the wedding announcement the attire for the ceremony – and if she had an issue with someone showing up in uniform, put it in black and white? But she didn’t… and someone showed up in uniform and conducted themselves appropriately and she couldn’t deal with it? And, now she feels all “guilty” about it? Fuck her…
She probably caught Hell from a few people over asking the Marine to leave, and is now trying to “rationalize” her actions. Well, she just needs to put her big girl pants on and deal with being an asshole on her wedding day in front of 300 people.
Actually she did put it in writing: Black Tie (optional). In the Wedding invitation.
The young Marine failed on his part to coordinate with the “Bride” or her family to ensure military formal was also acceptable (he did probably ask his parents…who may have given him bad advice).
The Bride clearly failed, by her own comments, to speak with him and point out his faux pas. She then exacerbated it by kicking him out, after she admitted he had been a perfect gentlemen…as would be expected of a Marine.
“Another commenter put it a little more bluntly, writing, “Over 300 people. Guy is in military formal wear and was very well-mannered. No question you’re an A. An over-dramatic, self-centered A.””
Bingo.
This chick sounds REALLY high maintenance, ie. really insecure. How sad.
Trivial little hussy. What WILL she do when a child becomes the real star of the show?
You knocked that one out of the park. What indeed. God forbid the little one has any problems and she has to give all her energy, time, money and devotion to a child. Hopefully this will be a learning point for her before the children suffer for her egocentric views.
what will she do?
Whatever it is, i’m sure we can read about it on r/choosingbeggars or r/entitledparents.
Shortly after the death of my dear departed father many years ago, my dear departed mother asked me to escort her to a wedding of a very close family friend. My mom asked me to wear my uniform. In my mess dress white jacket I dance with mom and anyone else who asked all night long.
This bridezilla millennial POS can Kiss My Royal Irish Ass (KMRIA).
MCPO OUT!
This was not a bridezilla, this was a egocentric, self centered, millennial POS. It does not deserve the title Bridezilla, as it far outstripped the behavior normally associated with those self absorbed brats. Military dress uniforms have always been appropriate attire for a wedding, and if spoiled brat can’t get that through her thick skull she does not deserve the sanctity of a wedding ceremony.
But what really disturbed me, were the comments in the original story, where supposed Active Duty Service Members were taking her side. I see now that unfortunately the Military has far too many Blue Falcons in its ranks now days.
She is absolutely an asshole and I would see a new bride that pulled that shit as irredeemable and refuse to marry her.
However, it is not appropriate to wear your uniform to a function that is not primarily military in nature or the wearing of for a specific military function or honor.
Wearing a uniform to the wedding of a service member is fine. Wearing it to the wedding of civilians with no military connection is not appropriate.
Unless you are a Medal of Honor winner. Then you can wear it whenever the hell you want.
It depends, for example, my niece requested that I wear my dress uniform to her wedding.
I will also add that there is no such thing as a Medal of Honor “winner”. They didn’t enter a raffle and then get it. They earned it. I think it was Dakota Meyer who put it as being celebrated for the worst day of his life.
There are MOH recipients.
There are no MOH ‘winners.’
(I was reprimanded by a retired Master Chief for making that mistake once.)
And that is your opinion dude. What rule makes it inappropriate?
The rules of a SJW… don’t want to hurt the feewings of a snowflake.
I was invited as a guest to one wedding while I was on active duty. I wore my dress blue uniform, mainly because at the time it was the most formal clothes I owned. There were at least a hundred guests (not 300 like in this story) and I was the only one in uniform (like in this story). I received no undue attention. (This may have been because it was still pre-9/11 and ‘Thank you for your service’ wasn’t yet a big thing.) The bride (a friend of mine for many years but whom I had never seen face to face prior to the wedding week) danced with me and both she and her husband were honored that I wore my uniform to their wedding. The bride was still the ‘star’ of the evening, everyone had a great time, and no one made any undue demands.
The bride in the reddit story was indeed an A.
Speaking of wearing the uniform to a formal event:
** A crusty old Sergeant Major found himself at a gala event hosted by a local liberal arts college. There was no shortage of extremely young, idealistic ladies in attendance, one of whom approached the Sergeant Major for conversation. She said “Excuse me, Sergeant Major, but you seem to be a very serious man. Is something bothering you?”
“Negative, ma’am” the Sergeant Major aid, “Just serious by nature.” The young lady looked at his awards and decorations and said, “It looks like you have seen a lot of action.” The Sergeant Major’s short reply was, “Yes, ma’am, a lot of action.” The young lady, tiring of trying to start up a conversation, said, “You know, you should lighten up a little. Relax and enjoy yourself.” The Sergeant Major just stared at her in his serious manner.
Finally, the young lady said, “You know, I hope you don’t take this the wrong way, but when is the last time you had sex?” The Sergeant Major looked at her and replied “1955.” She said, “Well, there you are. You really need to chill out and quit taking every thing so seriously! I mean, no sex since 1955! She took his hand and led him to a private rom where she proceeded to “relax” him several times.
Afterwards, and panting for breath, she leaned against his bare chest and said, “Wow, you sure didn’t forget much since 1955!” The Sergeant Major, glancing at his watch, said in his matter-of-fact voice, “I hope not, it’s only 2130 now.”
** Blatantly stolen from a Humor-In-Uniform write-up
If he was giving the bride away, it would have been better.If it was a marriage of a soldier, it would have been better.
No one ever accused young soldiers of being advanced in their social graces. He was proud, and wanted to show it. That said, I think he was wrong… seemingly soliciting “thank me for my service” comments. She did handled it wrong though. A few artfully designed sentences from her, to the crowd, about a proud Marine in their midst, would have turned the ceremony back to her.
Or perhaps he had nothing else appropriate to wear?
I suppose he could have shown up in a dirty t-shirt, ripped jeans, and sneakers.
Well they do eat crayons, just saying, Cheers.
Whoa … how wearing your uniform to a wedding is ever inappropriate, I am unable to fathom.
I guess that’s just another indication of how far the Republic has fallen.
I’ve worked with many Marines in my career and you would thank the grace of God to have them jump in your foxhole next to you.
What, is the self-centered Bridezilla some “Hanoi Jane” Fonda-loving hippie POS or some college-indoctrinated rat turd? I might pity the Groom but with a second thought, he might be some spineless anti-Military booger-eater that deserves her, here’s hoping they don’t reproduce!
I feel sorry for her new hubby. He better not dress too nicely when they are with others! Dress blues qualify as appropriate dress no matter how formal the occasion. I wore mine once after service, to a wedding and the bride and groom thanked me. She is a thin-skinned insecure woman who made herself miserable. Nobody else did it to her.
I’m guessing as part of any pre-nup, she told him that he had to give his balls to her for “safe keeping”.
The marriage ceremony could have been just another happy occasion for a young couple, one in which all the good things were kept in memories. The new bride definitly wanted to be the star of the show, let no one doubt that. Otherwise she’d never have mentioned the wearing of the uniform. Now if she were up for a redo and invited the same friends again, were I the gentleman in question, I’d have attended the second one naked as a jay bird. Then again, had the new husband been a bit “short” chances are he’d be bitchin’ just like his wife did. As crazy as a lot of us old Marines are, had it been me there I’d probably have got shit faced and jerked off on the wedding cake. Now you got something to bitch about!
Uniform of the day would be jockstrap, pile cap, and low quarters. Socks optional.
Meh, I’d say an OCP G-String with Combat Boots, wool socks and balaclava after a red bull and tequila Cocktail ready to go STREAKING!!
That sounds like a precursor to the Dance Of The Flaming Assholes!
If I was the guy in that relationship…
I would be looking for an annulment lawyer very soon…
That woman has got high rent, low class, trailer trash written all over her dumbass.
Granted, Marines are always showing off, but, that wench really takes the ego machine to the stratosphere faster than the Saturn V ever went !!!
Bride was just pissed because when he left all of the bridesmaids went with him. And left puddles in their chairs when they got up to go
Perhaps she will have a better time at her next wedding. You just know she will have one. And soon.
Yeah she’s a bitch and my co silences to the groom.
It sounds to me like she’ll have at least three or four!
The chick sounds like a bridezilla twat. I took a look at the reddit page. Plenty of self-righteous dickheads on there. Some are saying he was trying to attract chicks. If so, soooo…a twentysomething enlisted Marine has the same priorities as any male his age? The HORROR!!! The lad was polite, respectful, and probably looked sharp as all hell.
My wife had a fairly clear vision of the wedding she wanted. We actually had two ceremonies: a Catholic one and then an outdoor wedding officiated by her Pastor the next day. She wanted certain flowers, certain songs (one of my cousins DJed), that kind of thing, all reasonable. Several of my aunts wore white outfits, because those were the nicest ones they had. Mrs. Whitey (who looked downright radiant in her wedding dress) didn’t mind. She was glad to have everyone show up. Besides, my aunts (three of whom have since passed from cancer) pretty much adopted her as their own, and she was and is quite close with them. She didn’t demand to be the absolute center of all attention; she liked that everybody present was dressed to the nines. She appreciated that they cared enough to do so. Unlike this bitch.
Wore mine at my dad’s funeral because he asked me to.
I will wear it at mine as well.
I wonder if she’d have done the same if she invited, say, the police chief from a nearby city and he showed up in the formal version of his uniform?
A-hole? Dunno. But the Russian term некултурнэй (transliteration: “nekulturney”) certainly comes to mind.
That gal was not only overreacting, but an asshole to boot. Were I the prospective groom, she would have been told to calm down and shut the fuck up or the wedding was off.
That may also have been the only good “suit”, or the best “suit” that Marine had. If there was nothing specific in the wedding announcement/invitation, then he did nothing wrong. As far as black tie, which it apparently was, Blues kicks the shit out of black tie.
Too much left out to form a educated opinion: What rank/how old was the Marine? Young LCpl rocking Firewatch/GWOTSM or a Sgt rocking a full deployment stack with a CAR on the other side? Young hard charger just wearing his ribbons/badges? I can see a young Marine wearing his blues because he probably honestly didn’t want to spring for a suit he might wear ONCE. If he wasn’t acting like a legit ass hat then she might indeed be being an asshole. From what she put, he seemed to comport himself like a quality young Marine. What’s the issue? Maybe she just didn’t like the fact he looked better than she did. Maybe she didn’t like the fact he looked better than her betrothed. Who knows. Either way, if you have to ask the question, you probably already know the answer.
For a super long time, the only thing I could wear to a wedding / funeral was my dress uniform, and not one person EVER said anything about it. I didn’t act like an ass and life moved on.
Decades ago someone wearing their dress uniform to a formal function was normal, nowadays with all the losers, jealous me me me fools and #Resistance we now have this garbage.
What a spoiled little asshole, 300 guests….what a bunch of fucking hooey…
If you were at my wedding it’s because I wanted you there, not because you were some distant relative I’ve never known or never seen before. That was true the first time, the second time we avoided all that by going to Vegas and having the Elvis impersonator and Sonny Singer the limo driver be our witnesses…thus saving everyone their concerns over having to share our special day.
If the worst thing that happens to you on your wedding day is the arrival of an unexpected guest in a Marine Dress uniform that provides a little excitement that doesn’t focus on you, you’re having a pretty goddamn good day. I’ve been to weddings where drunken brawls break out or the groom was stuck in an unexpected accident for four hours and the church had to bypass the wedding for the follow up wedding scheduled later in the day. That couple ended up actually being married quietly that night by the priest in front of their parents only….
Shit happens, if you can’t deal with the trauma of a young Marine in his dress uniform what are you going to do when your child is born prematurely and all the hopes and dreams you had for that child are suddenly replaced with the simple desire that they live long enough for you to get to know them a little. Or when your husband tells you he has testicular cancer so you better make your babies right away because they have to remove one of his testicles and check him every year in case they need to take the other one as well.
Life is far more complicated than a young Marine showing up to celebrate with you in his dress uniform. Learn to be a fucking grown up and not a spoiled little twat and life will be far better for you moving forward.
You’ll have to kill me to make me wear my ASUs outside a military mandatory activity.
Eff that sht
I remember when I was in my 20s and poor. I didn’t have anything formal to wear except my Class A uniform.
Nowadays I have suits to wear so I wouldn’t wear my dress blues to anything unless it was “expected” of me. In this case, she’s being a bitch and maybe the kid didn’t have anything “wedding worthy” and wore the only thing he had that was formal?
Perhaps if she’d asked the question before throwing him out, she might’ve learned why he wore it.
When I got out of Jump School I had to go home for a funeral. I didn’t have any money and wore my Class A’s, Jump Boots and Beret. No one got offended and asked me to leave. After the wake the WW2 Vet’s bought me all the drinks I could take at the VFW.
Egocentric, Selfish little twat. That groom should have demanded an annulment on the spot and saved himself a lifetime of pain. An adult would have thanked him for his service and took a picture with him then let it go.
I can’t begin to describe my disgust over this and when I told my wife she was even more disturbed.